Clingy boy

kateincornwall

kateincornwall

Location
Cornwall , UK
Since I came out of hospital , Reuben has been very clingy indeed . It breaks my heart to have been told that he cried for me over the ten days , and then this morning for the first time ever, he hung back when Anna came for him . She has been on holiday so its been a couple of weeks since he last went to Playgroup which he usually adores , but this morning he clearly didnt want to leave me . Eventually , after much fussing from Anna , he went off with her ok but its so upsetting to see him so reluctant . I`m sure that he will be fine once he starts to play and have fun and I know that Anna will let me know if there are any problems with him , my darling soft boy xx
 
kateincornwall

kateincornwall

Location
Cornwall , UK
And again this morning, he didnt want to go and I dont know what to do . I trust Anna 100% , she tells me that once at the field, he is happy as a sandboy, its just the initial parting from me . There is half of me hates sending him off when he clearly tries to stay and the other half saying that I need to get him over this recent separation anxiety . Anna sent me photos on Monday , the lunatic was clearly having a grand time with his pals , playing in the pond and messing about in general looking very happy indeed, I just hate to send him away xx
 
Emily

Emily

Location
Melbourne, Australia
kateincornwall said:
And again this morning, he didnt want to go and I dont know what to do . I trust Anna 100% , she tells me that once at the field, he is happy as a sandboy, its just the initial parting from me . There is half of me hates sending him off when he clearly tries to stay and the other half saying that I need to get him over this recent separation anxiety . Anna sent me photos on Monday , the lunatic was clearly having a grand time with his pals , playing in the pond and messing about in general looking very happy indeed, I just hate to send him away xx
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It reminds me of when one of the kids goes through a phase of not wanting to be dropped off at childcare. It's heartbreaking and you feel terrible about it. But, they do get through the phase and all is good again.

I hope dear Reuben realises that his fun comes to and end with a return to mum ❤
 
Selina27

Selina27

Location
Herefordshire, UK
:heart:This is when it gets so hard, when you can't use words to explain that it is for the greater good, which it surely is. I guess it's worse when you are staying at home with out him, if you have something to do and he really can't come it doesn't feel quite so bad .
Bless him though. I think it shows that they do think more deeply than they are sometimes given credit for.
 
kateincornwall

kateincornwall

Location
Cornwall , UK
The odd thing is that this morning, when the van pulled up, he was on the chair looking out of the window and wagging his tail like crazy , then ran to my bed when Anna came to the door . I know he spent a lot of his time on my bed when I was in hospital so maybe it is just the initial separation from me , bless my big lump xx
 
Jacqui-S

Jacqui-S

Moderator
Location
Fife, Scotland
kateincornwall said:
The odd thing is that this morning, when the van pulled up, he was on the chair looking out of the window and wagging his tail like crazy , then ran to my bed when Anna came to the door . I know he spent a lot of his time on my bed when I was in hospital so maybe it is just the initial separation from me , bless my big lump xx
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He maybe wants you to go with him 😉
 
Boogie

Boogie

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Location
Manchester UK
kateincornwall said:
The odd thing is that this morning, when the van pulled up, he was on the chair looking out of the window and wagging his tail like crazy , then ran to my bed when Anna came to the door . I know he spent a lot of his time on my bed when I was in hospital so maybe it is just the initial separation from me , bless my big lump xx
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It usually is, with children too. When I taught four year olds several would cling to their parents. Once Mum/Dad had gone they were playing, laughing and learning happily all day. Then, as soon as they saw Mum/Dad at the end of the day they started crying again. I often wished I could video them as I’m sure their parents didn’t believe they’d been absolutely fine!

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MrChew

MrChew

Boogie said:
It usually is, with children too. When I taught four year olds several would cling to their parents. Once Mum/Dad had gone they were playing, laughing and learning happily all day. Then, as soon as they saw Mum/Dad at the end of the day they started crying again. I often wished I could video them as I’m sure their parents didn’t believe they’d been absolutely fine!

:nod:
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I must have the only one who runs away from us at pickup time then. :facepalm:

@kateincornwall I'm sure this will pass as you settle back into your routine, but I know it's hard at the time. We have had this intermittently with Rowan. Recently one of the teachers told me that he was upset for less than two minutes at drop off, but when what you see is the upset it really tugs at your heart.
 
MrChew

MrChew

Emily said:
Definitely not! Nathan still complains if I get to after school care too early!

When he was at childcare I used to have to plan pick-up with other parents otherwise he'd say I was mean for picking him up when his friends were able to stay and play 🤦‍♀️🤣
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I get yelled at if I pick him up before they get their late cracker!! The very same rice crackers that he won't eat at home.
 
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