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Biscuit Tin Guardian
- Location
- West Yorkshire, UK
It's six months thisevening since we lost Trevor. I have drunk one glass less than a bottle of wine, finished off some cauliflower cheese and the remains of the Christmas cake and eaten a bowl of Twiglets. The last six months have been challenging and heartbreaking, but I have managed them. I have not (quite) become totally alcohol dependant, I have not turned into a gibbering tear sodden wreck, I have been sad, but have still been able to laugh and find happiness. I have plans for the future and things I'm very much looking forward to. I'm living my life exactly as my lovely Trevor would want me to, but without him. Time to take stock and reflect a bit, and to pay tribute
where it's due: Family, my brother, his wife, and her brother, sister and family have all been wonderful. Trevor's children and grandchildren all live locally and are a mountain of support, love, laughter, occasional tears and total lovliness. Friends, Trevor and I were blessed with many good friends, some of whom have had their own health problems recently (we're all getting older) but they have all stayed the course and been very much there for me.
Now to come to the really important bit. Joy! My dear good sweet little girl, still very aptly named despite everything. I just can't stay too long in bed in the morning, I just can't spend too much time being maudlin and dwelling on the past. I have a Labrador to take care of! A sweet brave little girl who faces challenges even if they frighten her a bit. If she can do it, so can I. really don't know how I would have managed without her.Then I have to add to that the fact that without her, I wouldn't have found all of you lovely and like minded people. You honestly have helped and supported me loads.Sometimes I haven't felt up to posting anything, but have enjoyed reading what other people have said and have always felt connected to a constant and very supportive network of genuinely good people. I've done six months. If I can do that, I can do a year. If I can do a year, I can do two years.... and so on.
So here's to all of you! I'm now going to drink the final glass from that bottle of wine, then call it a night. Just want to thank everyone and to raise the final glass of the evening to you all, to Trevor, and to my GoodGirlJoy. Cheers!
where it's due: Family, my brother, his wife, and her brother, sister and family have all been wonderful. Trevor's children and grandchildren all live locally and are a mountain of support, love, laughter, occasional tears and total lovliness. Friends, Trevor and I were blessed with many good friends, some of whom have had their own health problems recently (we're all getting older) but they have all stayed the course and been very much there for me.
Now to come to the really important bit. Joy! My dear good sweet little girl, still very aptly named despite everything. I just can't stay too long in bed in the morning, I just can't spend too much time being maudlin and dwelling on the past. I have a Labrador to take care of! A sweet brave little girl who faces challenges even if they frighten her a bit. If she can do it, so can I. really don't know how I would have managed without her.Then I have to add to that the fact that without her, I wouldn't have found all of you lovely and like minded people. You honestly have helped and supported me loads.Sometimes I haven't felt up to posting anything, but have enjoyed reading what other people have said and have always felt connected to a constant and very supportive network of genuinely good people. I've done six months. If I can do that, I can do a year. If I can do a year, I can do two years.... and so on.
So here's to all of you! I'm now going to drink the final glass from that bottle of wine, then call it a night. Just want to thank everyone and to raise the final glass of the evening to you all, to Trevor, and to my GoodGirlJoy. Cheers!
He would be so proud of you
