Having a eulogy helps owners process the loss of a pet

[snowbunny]

I mean, it's common sense, really, but still interesting that it has been studied.
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs...ws4jeO5arKpSojmU9tpTE5oJwlD5mwLjDNqe13yGrnxl0

 

[HAH]

Neat article, and fabulous journal! Never encountered Anthrozoos before

 

[Oberon]

Always wish we’d had a funeral for our beloved first dog, Nicolae.

 

[Aitch]

I'd absolutely agree with this. When I lost Bear the grief was unbearable and writing down everything and reading it out loud was cathartic. I still miss him badly but it helped me to be able to move on a bit and I was able to take little Toby in when he needed it.
I really like that website! Thanks for the link.

 

[HAH]

Always wish we’d had a funeral for our beloved first dog, Nicolae.

You still could? I guess there may be a recency effect, but it might be worth considering? And/or you could tell us about him here - I’d love to hear about him.

 

[Atemas]

I found it very helpful being able to write about Sky here on this forum (Rainbow Bridge) and other threads - so a sort of eulogy. I think about Sky every day - we miss her desperately. Sometimes I can talk about her, sometimes I think about her and the tears just come.

 

[Oberon]

You still could? I guess there may be a recency effect, but it might be worth considering? And/or you could tell us about him here - I’d love to hear about him.

That’s so lovely. Thank you. I might do that (write about him) one of these days. Yes, I think I will.

 

[snowbunny]

That’s so lovely. Thank you. I might do that (write about him) one of these days. Yes, I think I will.

Please do! I've loved the snippets we've heard about him over the years. And I always think that Nicolae is the most majestic name!

 

[SwampDonkey]

You still could? I guess there may be a recency effect, but it might be worth considering? And/or you could tell us about him here - I’d love to hear about him.

I would too. I have a set of rituals for my animals it really helps me.

 

[edzbird]

Funerals don't help me, not for pets nor people. What does help me is to just talk about them. Talk about the funny things, talk about the normal things, talk about how they were different to current pets. Just talk about them in everyday conversation. Once the raw, brutal pain has passed I talk about them again. An on-going eulogy?

 

[SwampDonkey]

Yes that's lovely. On Going for me, the love for them never leaves.

 

[Shaz82]

Yes, talking about them is very helpful to me. My parents, my lovely first dog, you keep them with you when you bring them into conversation, they are part of your life still. It doesn't stop the tears occasionally but after the initial grief it is easier.

 

[Charlie]

We always had funerals for our children's pets. A plot, decorated box with name on, gathered round the graveside where anyone could say what they wanted about their pet then flowers. I feel it helped my children as it's their first experience of death. We still chat about all the animals we had and are no longer with us. Everyone's different and we all deal with grief in our own way. xxx

 

[kateincornwall]

The very reason why , with massive tech help from @snowbunny , I wrote the blog linked in my signature .
One size does not fit all , some people find it too hard to talk or write, but I found it cathartic x

 

[VanillaBean]

I don't talk about death, try to avoid it all cost. Agree funerals don't assist me either.
As I said to my Nana recently after her visit, I won't be coming back to the funeral, rather remember you and the fun we had. She agreed, as she said 'what can you do when I am gone'. Now I know that will not sit well with everybody, and specially with some members of my family.
I have never had a pet die as never had one until we got Vanilla. We used to have next doors cat as an adopted one (spent more time with us then them). But we moved prior to him ever passing away. Funny thing is still think about him at times as both our girls have characteristics of him in them, that I sometimes think he is part of them.
Even though I know it is ages away (hopefully) I have already made the decision that both girls will be getting a Eulogy, every now and then I make a couple of notes for future reference. The one thing I want to try and make sure never happens is that it happens at the Vets. I want it to be at the beach as they enjoy that so much.
OK so slightly of topic but kind of in line.

 

[Candy]

Please do! I've loved the snippets we've heard about him over the years. And I always think that Nicolae is the most majestic name!

Me too! Absolutely brilliant name!