A little bit nervous

kateincornwall

kateincornwall

Location
Cornwall , UK
Anyone who has met Reuben knows that he is a big happy sociable dog , he loves everyone and other dogs, the only exception being French Bulldogs . Reuben is not aggressive , quite the opposite but I think with Frenchies , its the noise they make being brachy dogs , he sees the grunting noise they make as aggression .
Tomorrow , Pauls son and wife are arriving for a weeks holiday with Frank , a French Bulldog who is unruly and with a tendency to be dominant , Reubs has never met him . They arent staying with us , but will be coming over to visit several times and I just hope and pray it will be alright . Reuben is usually fine with dogs coming into the house but I think it may be best if they meet on the garden . I tried suggesting to the family that we meet up the first time somewhere like Golitha but this didnt go down well , they just think it will all be fine , I hope they are right and that as usual for me , I am worrying over nothing and over thinking xx
 
Stacia

Stacia

Location
Malvern Worcestershire
I can understand your concern Kate. I would have thought it better to meet at GOLITHA falls. Walk them in parallel on leads to begin with, gradually getting closer and when both relaxed let them off. This is what I did with Rourke and grandson's Dachshund. If they think that isn't necessary could you do it outside the garden in your road?
 
HAH

HAH

Moderator
Location
Devon, UK
You know Reuben best Kate, and are his main advocate. If you think he has more chance of being comfortable with a new dog in a neutral space, with both dogs on lead and with space and distractions available (like a nice scatter on leads before a gentle walk), then that’s an entirely reasonable thing to insist on. I’d do similar, and I’m sure they’d agree even if they do things differently.
 
Candy

Candy

Biscuit Tin Guardian
Location
West Yorkshire, UK
Joy, who can be quite cautious has always been absolutely fine with other dogs visiting, but having said that, we have never had a visitor who is the type of dog she's scared of, they've nearly all been Labradors, mostly from MLF, or Keir. I understand your concern and if I was going to be meeting up with a friend/ relative accompanied by a dog that might cause her anxiety, then I would want that meeting to take place somewhere that there was enough space to allow her to keep her distance and take her time if she wanted to. After all, I wouldn't want to be forced into close proximity with someone who I felt frightened of. I hope you can find a way to manage the situation that works for everyone, but trust your instincts and politely stick to your guns. You know your boy best. Good luck.xx
 
MellowYellow

MellowYellow

Gosh that sounds stressful Kate!! I think if it were me I would insist on them meeting elsewhere first... At the very least outside the house. Fingers crossed all goes well and that you have a lovely visit!
 
kateincornwall

kateincornwall

Location
Cornwall , UK
I took the dogs to the woods earlier on this beautiful sunny day . The family are calling here in about an hour and so I plan to take Reubs for a short village walk just before they arrive so that they can all meet outside the house in the lane . Thankfully , being such a lovely day the garden will prove to be the best place for all of them , watch this space :facepalm:
 
Naya

Naya

Moderator
Location
Bristol, UK
I recently got invited to a friends house to meet her new puppy. Harley doesn’t always like small breed dogs so I arranged to meet them at a local park to walk together before going back to theirs for coffee. They got on great and I think k it’s because they met away from the house and were introduced properly. I know it’s hard with family, but personally I would insist, even if it’s just a walk around a few streets together.
 
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