Rourke Rest in Peace

[Emily_Babbelhund]

Oh Sonia, I’m so sorry. I only met Rourke once, but I’ll never forget his special smile and sweetness. The quietness IS overwhelming and it’s completely understandable that you’d think about going back to the vets. Do whatever is kindest to yourself and whatever you decide will be the right thing.

You know me, I believe they stay with us as long as we need them, and come back any time we need them. I hope you’ll be able to feel Rourke next to you, running free and young, when you take a walk, or his comforting presence at home in your favorite places to be together. It may feel odd at first, but maybe keep talking to him, and tell him your favorite memories of your life together. Tell us too if you feel up to it, I’d love to hear some silly Rourke stories and how he made you smile.

And please stay with us here and keep talking regardless of what you want to talk about.

Sending lots of love.

 

[Stacia]

I did phone them, but it didn't help. I felt sorry for the lady, she didn't really know what to say. She did her best.

 

[Stacia]

Oh Sonia, I’m so sorry. I only met Rourke once, but I’ll never forget his special smile and sweetness. The quietness IS overwhelming and it’s completely understandable that you’d think about going back to the vets. Do whatever is kindest to yourself and whatever you decide will be the right thing.

You know me, I believe they stay with us as long as we need them, and come back any time we need them. I hope you’ll be able to feel Rourke next to you, running free and young, when you take a walk, or his comforting presence at home in your favorite places to be together. It may feel odd at first, but maybe keep talking to him, and tell him your favorite memories of your life together. Tell us too if you feel up to it, I’d love to hear some silly Rourke stories and how he made you smile.

And please stay with us here and keep talking regardless of what you want to talk about.

Sending lots of love.

I have kept his bed and teddy and bunny out and his photo is where I can see it when I go upstairs. I have all his vet bed in back of the car and today went for a walk where we always went, I opened the car door to get him out and opened it again to put him back. The walk was painful. I don't feel he has stayed with me yet, but maybe soon. Thank you for your encouraging and empathetic post, it does help. x

 

[Emily_Babbelhund]

I did phone them, but it didn't help. I felt sorry for the lady, she didn't really know what to say. She did her best.

It must be a really hard job to do (I know Kate did it for a good while ). It could be it wasn’t the right time for you to talk, or that specific person just wasn’t a fit for you. Maybe try again at some point if you can?

Do you have any way to not be alone so much over the next few days?

My friend here in Regensburg (puppy chihuahua Maja’s human) made me come to her shop the day after Brogan died and just sit in a corner. As an introvert, I thought I wanted to be alone, but ended up sitting there all day, not even really talking, watching people come and go out of the shop. It saved my sanity that first day.

So if you could go to a friend’s or even just sit quietly in a cafe and have things going on around you, maybe that could help?

I know nothing REALLY helps when everything is so raw, just trying to think of things to get through one day at a time.

 

[M.F.]

Oh @Jelinga my heart is so sore for you. What a shocking and devastating post to see. I haven’t stopped thinking of you and darling Rourke and I was dreading the day I’d see this post. As no doubt you were dreading this day.

I always thought of Rourke as Snowie’s twin. His brother across the oceans and continents. He has a special place in my heart, and will continue having that special place.

I am so sorry for your loss of your beloved dog, your loving companion. And I’m so sorry for all the anguish you experienced these past few months. My love and thoughts are with you. xxx

 

[Stacia]

Oh @Jelinga my heart is so sore for you. What a shocking and devastating post to see. I haven’t stopped thinking of you and darling Rourke and I was dreading the day I’d see this post. As no doubt you were dreading this day.

I always thought of Rourke as Snowie’s twin. His brother across the oceans and continents. He has a special place in my heart, and will continue have that special place.

I am so sorry for your loss of your beloved dog, your loving companion. And I’m so sorry for all the anguish you experienced these past few months. My love and thoughts are with you. xxx

Yes, I always thought of them as twins, even though they are opposite ends of the world, both born the same day. Snowie had a special place in my heart as well. Thank you for your love and thoughts, it means a lot. xx

 

[Stacia]

It must be a really hard job to do (I know Kate did it for a good while ). It could be it wasn’t the right time for you to talk, or that specific person just wasn’t a fit for you. Maybe try again at some point if you can?

Do you have any way to not be alone so much over the next few days?

My friend here in Regensburg (puppy chihuahua Maja’s human) made me come to her shop the day after Brogan died and just sit in a corner. As an introvert, I thought I wanted to be alone, but ended up sitting there all day, not even really talking, watching people come and go out of the shop. It saved my sanity that first day.

So if you could go to a friend’s or even just sit quietly in a cafe and have things going on around you, maybe that could help?

I know nothing REALLY helps when everything is so raw, just trying to think of things to get through one day at a time.

I have friends who for the next three days are keeping me busy, but what after. I am so afraid of the terror of the realisation that he has really gone for ever, I felt it last night and so afraid it will happen again. The house seems even emptier today without him. Thank you so much for thinking of things to get me through the raw pain, I really appreciate you just being there xxx

 

[Granca]

I have kept his bed and teddy and bunny out and his photo is where I can see it when I go upstairs. I have all his vet bed in back of the car and today went for a walk where we always went,

There’s no easy way to work through it. Just take things as they come and try to focus on all the memories of the lovely times you had together. We’re all here for you and I hope the company of your friends over the next few days helps too. x

 

[Emily_Babbelhund]

Thinking of you this morning, Sonia. I’m glad you have friends you can be with the next few days. Those waves of grief will come, but they’ll also wash back out and give you a chance to remember the good times with Rourke. Just one day at a time right now, ok?

 

[Atemas]

I too am thinking of you Sonia

 

[Naya]

I am so sorry Sonia. I am glad you have friends to help over the next few days. Thinking of you.

 

[Stacia]

Thinking of you this morning, Sonia. I’m glad you have friends you can be with the next few days. Those waves of grief will come, but they’ll also wash back out and give you a chance to remember the good times with Rourke. Just one day at a time right now, ok?

I will try xxx

 

[M.F.]

Thinking of you today xxx

 

[Cath]

@Jelinga

 

[kateincornwall]

Sonia , try to remember that whatever or however you are feeling now is perfectly normal . Allow yourself to be sad , to cry or scream if you need to , dont bottle up your feelings . Tears are a natural release of emotion so let them flow, take one day at a time and please be kind to yourself and take care xxx

 

[Stacia]

Sonia , try to remember that whatever or however you are feeling now is perfectly normal . Allow yourself to be sad , to cry or scream if you need to , dont bottle up your feelings . Tears are a natural release of emotion so let them flow, take one day at a time and please be kind to yourself and take care xxx

Thank you Kate, I did scream for him this morning, it is so painful to think he has gone forever, I feel I just cannot bear the pain, though know I have to do so.

 

[Beanwood]

This is just the saddest news, I am so sorry.

 

[Kelsey]

dont bottle up your feelings . Tears are a natural release of emotion so let them flow,

This is my biggest regret when I ‘grieved’ Axel. I don’t know if I have talked about it on here or not… but that first week I lost him I cried a lot, but then I kept shutting my feelings off anytime I would think about the loss of him. I could think happy things and that was ok, but if sadness came I shut it off instantly and didn’t let it out. I went almost a year and a half with turning it off. It was only the last few months I realized I was in a deep dark hole because I didn’t allow myself to release emotions. So to this day I have moments where I sob on the couch and let it all out. But I never hold in my emotions anymore and I am finally doing much better, so please let it all out

 

[edzbird]

I sobbed for you & Rourke yesterday & today, and realised I was sobbing for Scooby & Belle too. I will probably sob tomorrow too. Please don't feel alone at this awful time x

 

[Lab_adore]

I've cried every day since I saw the terrible news Sonia; I've done the same with each loss of a precious forum pup. it is just the hardest and most painful time and I wish it wasn't so. We are all here to help you with your grief