So sorry that this happened! Can you maybe give it some time and have a chat to them about the next catch-up and set a kind but firm boundary? I don't think it's ok for them to bring their dog over and put Red in that position in her own home. Maybe once they have had a few weeks to mull it over they will agree.
Not the best day……
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Atemas
UK Tour Guide
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- North Cambridgeshire
Yes totally identify with this. Reflecting on the day, Red had spent the whole visit keeping out of the dog’s way. My step daughter’s partner picked up on what was happening and several times tried to coax her out of hiding and giving her attention. He looked at me so I know he understood what was going on. My step daughter (who work’s for a big animal charity) was saying what a wonderfully intelligent dog the water spaniel was and was completely oblivious to the signals Red was giving. In fact she ignored Red and gave the spaniel far too much attention. I actually feel angry about it this morning. As you say @MF, I am cross I didn't say more but I was trying to be a good host. F seemed oblivious to what was going on as he (like me) was making sure everyone was ok.
Last evening Red spent the whole time in the study away from us - this is not like her. F said she was ok - I disagreed and said how would you like to be attacked in your own home? He said he’d stand up for himself……but I know he understood (he didn‘t see ‘the attack’ but he heard it from the house). I’m not happy…..
Jacqui-S
Moderator
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- Fife, Scotland
I know this isn't where your post about your traumatic incident was made (Off Topic I think) but I am guessing that this on the background of your trauma has made things very hard for you.
You were feeling very positive for yourselves and Red being in your new house and garden.
I hope you haven't lost a feeling of safety where you are
You were feeling very positive for yourselves and Red being in your new house and garden.
I hope you haven't lost a feeling of safety where you are
Emily_Babbelhund
Mama Red HOT Pepper
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- Regensburg, Germany
I'm sorry to read about what happened to Red, and to you. What a tough situation when the dog with the issue is attached to existing friends. It must be a relief that they've already said they won't bring their dog again, even if it's a shame in an alternate universe where their dog and Red could have been friends. At least it sounds like you can keep the humans as friends. Sometimes people love their dogs so much that they can never see that their dog can be a danger to other dogs or humans. 
I hope Red is feeling better.
I hope Red is feeling better.
Atemas
UK Tour Guide
- Location
- North Cambridgeshire
No sadly they haven’t said this. Just me hoping they won’t. Anyway a year is a long way off so I am crossing my fingers that decision is made where they don’t bring her.
We are very very positive being here for us and Red - we absolutely love it. Last week’s trauma came on top of our general exhaustion over everything we are doing on the house (even though that is all positive). Sunday seeing my dog pinned down by an aggressive dog in her own garden was too much. However, all is ok and I am following my mantra of ‘onwards and upwards’ - thank you and everyone for your kindness. Red has had a good day (photos over on Today, my dog and I went walking)
Emily_Babbelhund
Mama Red HOT Pepper
- Location
- Regensburg, Germany
Oh darn, sorry - I guess that was wishful thinking on my part!
Just tell them that they can't bring her it's your house your rules. Obviously if they address this issue and they can guarantee Red won't get attacked you can discuss it.
Yes, that was lovely to read. Just the sort of day you needed!