Not sure this is the right place.

[Charlie]

I'm glad you got to say goodbye the way you wanted too. Just take one day at a time Sonia. Your feelings will change daily. Having company will help you but also you might want to be alone so don't be worried to say that to your friends and family, they will understand. Grieving takes many forms. We are all still with you. xxx

 

[Naya]

@Jelinga Im glad you had company last night and that the vicar had been so supportive over the past few months. Make sure you have some you time and allow yourself to feel what you want to x

 

[Stacia]

Thank you both

 

[Candy]

Thinking of you still as Joy and I keep each other company this evening.xxx

 

[Stacia]

Thinking of you as well Candy and GGJ, with Rourke keeping me company, where would we be without our dogs xx

 

[Candy]

Thinking of you as well Candy and GGJ, with Rourke keeping me company, where would we be without our dogs xx

I often ask myself that! She's such a lovely presence in my life.

 

[edzbird]

where would we be without our dogs

 

[M.F.]

I find a funeral feels so final, and the emotions that well up can be quite surprising. Thinking of you.

 

[Candy]

There can also be a sense of calm, kind of a pause in all the stress, business and worry that is surprising after a funeral. A time to re-group and briefly take stock. Quite a blessed, precious time.

 

[Selina27]

@Jelinga I'm so pleased to read that the vicar knew Mike personally and had visited him during his illness. I think it makes such a difference to the funeral service and it's sort of comforting in a way.
It sounds as if you did a good job with your music choices, and as if it went just as you might expect. xxxx

 

[Oberon]

How are you going, Jelinga?

 

[Atemas]

Yes I have been thinking of you @Jelinga and wondering how you are doing?

 

[Stacia]

Thank you @Oberon and @Atemas, I am still feeling numb, just made myself a cup of tea and thought, I have lived with this man for 61 years and I feel as if I never had, it is weird. I am waiting for the deep grief, took my cousin 2 years before it hit her. It is lonely and yet I am busy all the time, thank heaven for Rourke. However, not sure how long I will have Rourke, his tendonitis/arthritis is getting worse and he is very lame, significantly lame, but he seems happy. I think Rourke is my saviour so far. I have almost finished all the paperwork which I have done all myself, I am hoping I don't have to have probate. I don't have a pension from Mike's pension yet. The future looks bleak.

 

[Lab_adore]

I'm so very sorry @Jelinga. I do hope time helps with your healing. I also hope you don't have to have probate as you need an income

 

[Candy]

I was also wondering how you are Sonia and still think of you every day.xx

 

[Cath]

Did @Jen not say she would help you @Jelinga? Sorry you feel lonely. I wish I was near you to help. Take care of yourself

 

[Charlie]

It must be so difficult for you Sonia after so many years together. I can't imagine how you feel. Sorry Rourke isn't himself either but glad he is bringing you so much comfort. I hope you get your income sorted out quickly. xxx

 

[Candy]

It took about three months for me to get my Fire Service spouse's pension, but when I did it was more than I expected and a rare pleasant surprise. It made me feel happy because I knew Trevor would not want me to have to worry about money. Re the loneliness, I am finding I'm getting more used to spending time on my own now, which helps. Re the numbness, that comes and goes I find, as does the grief, as well of the moments of gratitude for the lovely life we had together, enjoying our dogs and friends and holidays so much. I find I'm always able to think 'At least we had that', being aware that some people never do. Such a strange and different time. I do believe though that I must just go with it.
Love to you and your faithful Rourke from me and my little Joy.xx

 

[Atemas]

I am so pleased that Rourke is happy despite his difficulties and he is providing such comfort. Be assured @Jelinga we are all here for you. Massive

 

[Oberon]

Thinking of you very often.