Is that part of their lives ever really over? I don't think so with Charlie. There are still certain things that must have happened in his previous life that still happen no matter what we do to positively help, yes we have reduced certain things a lot but they are always there on some level. x
With friends, I will call her "the new one" or "the three-legged one" because I have four dogs and don't expect anyone to remember their names unless they spend a lot of time with them! But that's just descriptive - I will also say "the brown one", "the black one", and "the light one" - people often don't get the idea of "chocolate" and "yellow"