I`m not very popular now !

[kateincornwall]

Theres this woman who comes to Golitha every morning , she has a very large unruly GSD and three Border Collies . She is a nice enough person but , she encourages Reuben to run to her and says she doesnt mind him jumping up, well I do !
I have been working really hard on the jumping and its finally paying off , most of the time so I do ask friends to ignore the boy , dont give him any excuse to go manic . This morning we got there before her , and had a pretty short walk in the shade , Nelly pottered and the lad had a good old splash about until he found a very dead stiff squirrel which he flung around in glee, finally giving it up for his ball . On leads and almost back at the car, she pulls up in her car next to ours , I felt the tension in the lead as she shouted out to him . I called back and asked her to please ignore him , to which she replied " OK but I just want to come and fuss him first " . I hate confrontation , and would do anything to avoid it but I did ask her politely again to ignore him , completely as I didnt want him to lunge which he would have done if she had come to us . She took the hump, big style , huffing and puffing , muttering that I was encouraging Reuben to be anti social and was being ridiculous . I told her that it was nothing personal , just that he is a strong lad and so it was of prime importance to me that he didnt pull me over ! If looks could kill I would be long gone , maybe I am being a bit silly x

 

[Boogie]

Well said

She’s the one being ridiculous - don’t give her another thought xx
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[Charlie]

If she's got the hump, tough. You have to do what you have to do. You were polite as always so it's her problem xx

 

[Atemas]

Yes it’s her problem. Some people just don’t get it, do they? She may think on her actions but I doubt it. You are not being silly at all - he’s your dog

 

[Lab_adore]

For goodness sake what is wrong with people? She couldn't handle the fact that she might be in the wrong so tried to turn it around to you Kate. Ignore her, she is ignorant.

PS: I totally and absolutely hate conflict too so I am very proud of you

 

[SwampDonkey]

Good for you Kate your dog your rules. If she can't understand and wants to huff like a teen-ager let her.

 

[Joy]

Yes, you did the right thing so don't let it prey on your mind.

 

[Shaz82]

No not silly, sensible. Your Reuben will be better behaved than all of hers, some people really need telling.
Don't worry about her feelings, what if you did get pulled over? Silly moo.

 

[Emily_Babbelhund]

You handled it perfectly, nothing to feel remotely bad about.

I wish I was more like you...I just sort of buckle to certain people and it does Carbon no favours. As @Boogie can attest, my problem person is the antiques man on the corner. I don't know how many times last summer I asked him not to feed Carbon or at least not to feed him until he's sitting and calm. No dice. He's the nicest man and I just can't bear to keep telling him (obviously doesn't listen anyway). Now I just try to avoid going past his shop during opening hours, though he'll still run out with treats if he sees us on the adjacent street.

 

[Boogie]

You handled it perfectly, nothing to feel remotely bad about.

I wish I was more like you...I just sort of buckle to certain people and it does Carbon no favours. As @Boogie can attest, my problem person is the antiques man on the corner. I don't know how many times last summer I asked him not to feed Carbon or at least not to feed him until he's sitting and calm. No dice. He's the nicest man and I just can't bear to keep telling him (obviously doesn't listen anyway). Now I just try to avoid going past his shop during opening hours, though he'll still run out with treats if he sees us on the adjacent street.

Yes, he is a lovely man but ...

How you manage not to have Carbón pull you over to get to him I don’t know.

He also gives a lot of treats - the kind of strip I would use to last a full walk.

 

[kateincornwall]

It is hard , especially when people mean well , I felt awful this morning but have got over it now, my lad my rules xx

 

[Emily_Babbelhund]

He also gives a lot of treats - the kind of strip I would use to last a full walk.

I know, he gives three full strips and if I was using that type of treat I would use one strip for a fairly long walk. I just kind of wince every time.

How you manage not to have Carbón pull you over to get to him I don’t know.

Carbon knows he can't go forward if he pulls, so he'll usually sit and wait for me to say 'let's go'. Notice I say "usually". Now I don't go out with Carbon during his opening hours...it's just easier. And safer for my foot!

 

[Emily_Babbelhund]

my lad my rules xx

Precisely!

 

[Selina27]

I hate confrontation , and would do anything to avoid it but I did ask her politely again to ignore him ,

Oh you absolutely have my sympathy, I am just the same. It was horrible when Cass was a puppy, with people behaving like that, drove me nuts and I used to get really worked up inside about it, so cross that people were ignoring my requests and yet I didn't want to appear rude.
I don't get what it is about people that makes them think it's ok. Really it's a mystery to me.
But, at 3 and a bit, Cassie actually greets people really nicely now, she was one to jump up but rarely does now to new people.

 

[Candy]

I also dislike confrontation and tend to avoid it when possible but when it comes to anything that affects Joy or my relationship with her I can be quite stroppy ( well, stroppy for me) so don't worry about it Kate, it's perfectly acceptable.

 

[Jacqui-S]

You are right Kate.
She is wrong.
Good on you.

 

[MellowYellow]

Silly woman. Well done, Kate. You’ll be the one with the well-behaved, socially-adept dog, and we’ll see what she has to say then!

 

[FayRose]

Wish I had your courage and forthrightness. I fear my weaknesses are not helping my dog.

 

[Xena Dog Princess]

He's the nicest man

Except he's not, because a nice man would listen to and respect your wishes. We all do this "oh she/he is lovely really" but lovely people listen to your wishes and are still lovely even when you tell them no.