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I tried again and it won’t let me x
If you have the Puppy Blues, you might want to read this
- Thread starter Atemas
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Hi Jill, @UncleBob did an excellent walk through post in the forum help section on videos.
I use YouTube, you need to upload your video to YouTube (there's a button in the top right corner to do this quickly) and then you need to publish your video, then it will give you a link which you can then just paste into the forum here, using the link button in the middle of the panel above where you type. You have lots of options on YouTube about who sees your video, so you can keep your clips quite private. You'll need a basic YouTube account, just email and password I think, from memory.
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- County durham
Hi everyone me again another bad night with Oscar I’m so tired can’t do this again tonight I’m back to work tmorroWelcome @Jilldrinkwater , I’m so pleased you’ve found us! You’re amongst friends, sympathetic ears and a very enthusiastic group of dog lovers who are keen to help with this sometimes rocky road of dog ownership. As @kateincornwall and @Selina27 say, don’t feel ashamed for crying, it’s blooming tough at times and it will get better. Do tell us more about Oscar, and we’d love to see photos
Did eventually settle at 9,30 till he went out at 2.30 which is great I know but cried from 3 settled at 4 after I told him frequently to be quiet then up again at 5.30
I’ve been a bit quiet so at moment he’s in cage he took himself there
I’m seriously at a loss food?drink?any advice is appreciated
It’s soo hard I can feel myself getting all stressed again and that’s not good!!!xx
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- Sydney, Australia
I'm really sorry @Jilldrinkwater , I remember all too clearly where you are. We had visitors arrive the week after Maxx came home (they invited themselves to stay from overseas and I should have said no) and they were lazy and inconsiderate so I was cook, cleaner and taxi driver to them plus dealing with this little furry bundle of teeth who had hubby and I up all night chewing our outdoor furniture, plants, us and everything else while we desperately tried to keep him quiet and not wake up the entire house. I honestly thought we would have to give him back; one night it was 4.00am I was sobbing on the back porch while Maxx was grabbing on to the bottom of my shirt and ripping it to shreds. I know it doesn't help right now but it does get better, quicker than you think! At least I was on my Christmas holidays and poor you has to work and you have a hard job as a nurse
I used to yell at him and that would make it worse. Then I discovered this forum and learnt that being calm (oh how hard it is!) and non-reactive has better results.
Hang in there, we are all here so please vent and wail and we will listen and understand....
I used to yell at him and that would make it worse. Then I discovered this forum and learnt that being calm (oh how hard it is!) and non-reactive has better results.
Hang in there, we are all here so please vent and wail and we will listen and understand....
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- County durham
Thankyou I’ve kind of ignored him all morning I just can’t bring myself to interact with him I’m soo tired so I haven’t really said much to him
I’ve put his breakfast down for him in his crate and kind of just left him too it
He just keeps crying for attention but I’m just too tired andy has gone to work so was me up again so he cud sleep don’t know what will happen tonight I’m at work tmorro and kids at school
So he’s going to be left for a while about an hr till my mam comes down and I’m stressing about that too!!!xx
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- County durham
He’s just cried and jumped up onto my knee and I really just don’t want him too
Feeling very tired and very stressed and feeling like I’ve been left holding the baby again xx
Cath
MLF Sales Coordinator
Hi Jill you do not say if you have a partner or not, but when we get our puppies I always go to bed at around 10. My OH stays up and takes the pup out later say 12 (midnight). Then brings the pup up to me and puts her in the cat carrier/box next to my bed., or if you want in a crate downstairs, do not talk to him. When he wakes up take him out side for his wee, but do not talk to him, just put him back in his crate and go to bed. I use to try and keep them awake in the evening so they are ready to sleep and cover the crate with a blanket just leaving the front uncovered. Sorry you are tired but you will get there. 
Sorry just seen about OH.
Sorry just seen about OH.
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Hi Thankyou he was doing really well until night before lastHi Jill you do not say if you have a partner or not, but when we get our puppies I always go to bed at around 10. My OH stays up and takes the pup out later say 12 (midnight). Then brings the pup up to me and puts her in the cat carrier/box next to my bed., or if you want in a crate downstairs, do not talk to him. When he wakes up take him out side for his wee, but do not talk to him, just put him back in his crate and go to bed. I use to try and keep them awake in the evening so they are ready to sleep and cover the crate with a blanket just leaving the front uncovered. Sorry you are tired but you will get there.
His crate is covered and we don’t talk to him when we get him out
Tried keeping him awake thought now going out for a walk would tire him out but unfortunately not
My husband usually takes him out before he goes to bed then I get up early hrs after going to bed st 9-10pm when he needs a wee
Took hot water bottle out which seemed to help a bit
I’m at my wits end again I don’t know how I’m supposed to function and look after people at work
I’m frightened of making mistakes due to tiredness xx
Just a suggestion - he might do better if his crate were in the same room as you. It’s really difficult for some puppies to be alone at night - mine was just the same, it was a nightmare the first six weeks.
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- County durham
Hi my bedroom isn’t big enough for the size of the crate xx
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- County durham
Thankyou to everyone for help and suggestions xx
I usually sleep with mine until they are ready to sleep the whole night through. I sleep next to crate then move to the sofa then upstairs. It can take a while to get back upstairs it just depends on the pup. Rorys first night I had to sleep with my hand on his paw. Second night he cried a bit but settle so I slept next to the crate till he slept then slept on the sofa. They get upset it's s big wrench for them he's hes been taken from his family and home. He might cry because he's upset, not because of something you've done or not done. He needs comfort but they soon adapt some just take longer than others and the crying is heart wrenching Rory sobbed on his way home in the car. Sleep will be a problem for the next few weeks as he adjusts, sleep when you can things soon improve.
Atemas
UK Tour Guide
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Just know that it will get better. It’s so very hard when they are so little. Although I am retired I have a lot of commitments and my puppy absolutely exhausted me. As you will have read I more or less fell apart - the tiredness was totally overwhelming BUT it is only for a short time relatively so if you can hang onto the fact ‘it will pass’ you will get through. I think I underestimated the whole tiny puppy thing and how dependent they are on us (a bit like babies).
Cath
MLF Sales Coordinator
Try and get asleep this afternoon, let your OH look after him while you have your nap.
It may just be a blip and he will go back to sleeping again.
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Hi @Jilldrinkwater - I really feel for you at this point. Everything feels so much harder when you’re sleep deprived, and it’s really stressful because you feel like the responsible one who has to keep doing all the looking after when actually you just need some sleep. Are you managing to look after yourself? I remember those early stages just having a shower went some way to giving me more energy. Give him a cardboard box to play with and take some minutes for yourself.
Definitely sharing it out a bit is the answer, if OH or your girls can have him for an hour or so later you can catch up on sleep which will make the world of difference.
And keep reminding yourself he’s a baby looking for comfort; it’s really frustrating but it’s not his fault. A bit of playtime (cardboard boxes to play in, toilet rolls to chew, scrunched up newspaper to chase after) will all tire him out and give you some focused activity with him.
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- East Sussex
Lack of sleep is awful and I would do what is necessary to help him settle at night. So if his crate won't fit into your bedroom, I would have him in your room without a crate, in a cardboard box or a dog bed, or even just a blanket on the floor. My pups have never used a crate and I've always started them off in my bedroom - just make sure you've removed anything dangerous or precious from his reach and blocked access to sockets etc. It doesn't mean he'll be in your room for ever - when he's confident you can move him downstairs. I didn't even get up in the night but covered the floor thickly in newspaper and let them wee on that if needed (though I did get up very early - 5.30 at first.)
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- County durham
Unfortunately he’s at work 12 hrs x
So does mine a 14, to 16 day for him is not unknown I did it on my own. I just slept when pup slept naps are your friend. I find I just switch off I stop all other activities and the world is just me and pup I stop worrying about stuff just focus on what I'm doing. Its just a very short of period of puppy need it soon passes. Stop about worrying about stuff and focus whatever in front of you. You can do it if I can things will be fine. I've had 3 so far and getting another soon. I love puppies but when I get them the oh no I remember now and shut my eyes grit my teeth and get on with it. You don't get a adult lab without having to go through s little pain at first. You will be fine just enjoy them as much as you can they aren't pups for long
Boogie
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Yes, I remember the days when I was looking after my Mum, who had dementia, then I’d have work the next day. It was best not to even think ‘How will I cope?’ and just to battle through, one hour at a time. Thinking ahead made the present much worse. Once you are in the day you cope.
Keep thinking ‘this too will pass’ because it will.
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Keep thinking ‘this too will pass’ because it will.
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