Somehow it seems so final
We'll be there,
@Jelinga .
I remember the graveside at my mother's funeral vividly, although it was a very long time ago. Although in some ways it was indeed so heartbreakingly final, I also felt that as her body slipped away from me, she herself lodged firmly in my heart and I carried her away from the graveside with me, safe forever. In some ways it was a beginning.
Try not to worry about anyone else tomorrow - don't fret about the arrangements or the refreshments or the hotel. You've done the planning, now let everyone look after themselves. You look after yourself and get through the day - that is your real job tomorrow.