Passing of friend who opened up a new world to me

David

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I'm actually not clear now on exactly when we met, but it must have been around 6 years ago. We'd inherited our black Labrador bitch, Lady at 6 months old following the death of our daughter today actually in 2010. We had no clue about dogs really, especially a full on working strain Labrador pup. Lady was an absolute nightmare (as everyone who has gone through the Lab puppy stage knows) and this continued until she grew up quite suddenly around 3 years old. During this puppy/adolescent dog phase some dog walking friends suggested giving Lady something useful to do and take her to gundog classes, and I duly did just that with a view to turning her into a well behaved dog. The gundog training was a good move, taught me a lot, and tired her physically and mentally and she also got some good manners coming through.

This is where time gets a bit hazy, and after the event it's easy to say I wish I'd kept a diary. Anyway, Lady was around 2 yrs and 3 mths I'd guess and I'd taken her into a large field on a nearby farm to do a bit of dummy training. I was actually trespassing well off any public right of way, but it was just an empty field of grass with a bit of cover and some water ideal for training. We hadn't been going long when a battered old Landrover came through the field gate and headed straight for us across the field. I thought I'm in trouble now! Anyway the Landrover pulled up and the farmer got out and asked "Is she a good gundog?". I've got to say I thought I was going to be told off. I explained she was just a pet really. He then said he'd seen me around the farm with the dog and why didn't I try her on the shoot, told me where and when to meet, jumped into his Landrover and as he drove out called out "We don't pay by the way!".

The rest as they say was history. Lady and I joined the shoot run by Robert the farmer who became a friend. We progressed eventually to front line picking up and then I went over to the dark side and joined as a gun 2 years ago. I've made lots of friends and acquaintances directly through that shoot which started by Robert's father and has been running for well over 50 years now; I'm very much a newcomer. I've learned a bit about woodland management, rearing pheasants and controlling vermin. Lady has had a much more interesting life and has developed into a lovely well rounded (dare I say) gundog held back these days only by her elbow dysplasia which s now becoming more apparent.

And to think that none of this would have happened but for that chance meeting with Robert the farmer, a friend, one of the old school and a gentleman in every sense of the word who died today.
 
I’m really sorry to hear about the passing of your friend - and your daughter!

Sometimes the people who have the biggest impact to our lives are the people we would least expect x
 
Thank you for posting that David, I too am deeply sorry for the loss of your daughter, and of your friend today. How wonderful though, that Lady has had such a fulfilling life with you, in part due to Robert. A great legacy.
 
I am very sorry to read that Robert died today and also very sad and sorry to learn of the death of your daughter. We lost a young granddaughter.

Like you, I got into gun dogs by accident, but it sure changed my life and gave me a purpose as it did for you.
 

Beanwood

Administrator
Oh I am so sad reading this, heartfelt condolences to you...we are both going to raise a toast to Robert tonight, a true gentleman, and will keep your daughter in our thoughts on this difficult day. x
 

Joy

Location
East Sussex
I’m very sorry to read of the death of your friend Robert. You obviously have many happy memories. So sorry too to hear that you lost your daughter.
 
I am sorry to hear the sad news about your friend Robert. I still remember you telling the story on the old forum of getting started with Lady on Robert's shoot. Those years have flown by. What wonderful memories you must have.
 
David, a difficult day for you and Rosemary, I am deeply sorry about your daughter it's the worst thing to happen to a parent. You lost your friend too, a gentleman who taught you so much. I'm so glad you have Lady in your lives as I am sure she is to be in yours. You are all in my thoughts xxx
 

HAH

Moderator
Location
Devon, UK
Thinking of you David, and your family - what a bittersweet journey you and Lady have been on; hopefully many happy times ahead xx
 

Jacqui-S

Moderator
Location
Fife, Scotland
So sad to hear this.
I think you have done good by his memory telling your story of Robert. I too remember the story of your meeting on TLF.
God speed.
Love to you both, a tough day xx
 
Oh David, what a difficult day for you. I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter, and for the fresh loss of your friend. How wonderful that he opened up a new life for you and Lady, and that you had his friendship for several years.
 
What a truly inspiring journey you & Lady have had so far David. Both of you coming together at such a sad and difficult time for you & your family and now your good friend who you’d met through Lady, passing away today. A lovely tribute to them and so many happy memories that you’ve gained in the last 6 years. Thinking of you and your family, David. X
 

Naya

Moderator
Location
Bristol, UK
So sorry to hear about your friend and your daughter. Lady brought you together with Robert and is a credit to you and the hard work you have put in. Thinking of you x
 
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That’s a beautiful tribute to your friend. I’m so sorry that he has passed away. It sounds like he was the kind of person whose loss will be felt hard by a very great number of people across the community.
 

Cath

MLF Sales Coordinator
Sorry for the loss of your friend, but you do have lovely memories of your friendship.
 
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