Run free Nelly
- Thread starter kateincornwall
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- Cornwall , UK
Thanks for asking Cath xx I am ok, most of the time , just trying to get on with life without Nelly which is not easy but we are both trying hard . Reuben saw Anna picking up his friend from over the road and ran to the door in excitement so I shouted over to Anna if she could take him an extra day and of course she said yes . So our dear boy is having fun , which pleases us so much xxx Just to add , we have Nellys ashes in a beautiful casket , it is in our bedroom as I am not yet ready to let her go . When I do feel ready, it will be at Golitha but not for some considerable time yet xxxHow are you dear Kate. I hope you are being kind to yourself x
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- Malvern Worcestershire
Life without Nelly must seem empty at times, though I am sure Reuban is a great help and it will cheer you that he has had an extra day at Anna's.
I still have Rourke and Drift's ashes on my desk, my other dogs are in the garden. I would like to be buried with their ashes but don't think that is allowed.
I still have Rourke and Drift's ashes on my desk, my other dogs are in the garden. I would like to be buried with their ashes but don't think that is allowed.
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Jacqui-S
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I don't see why not Sonia, my two experiences of burial, we were encouraged to add what we wanted ti the coffin, there weren't rules or exclusions. I know cremation is different, not even a wedding ring, for obvious reasons.
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I was told dog ashes were forbidden! Perhaps I will say they are two of my ex husbands'
Kate, I hope you are ok. I know what you are going through; it's a devastating time. It's over three months for me since I lost Poppy and my Mum, and to be honest the blanket of grief is only now starting to lift a little. Grief is part of love, and you just have to manage it as best you can. You can't hurry it, nor should you. I hope that the better weather lifts your spirits a little, as well as seeing Reuben a bit happier. Merlin has just started to cheer up too - I think the good weather is helping us both as we can get out more and do more adventurous walks and work in the garden. Well, I do garden work, and Merlin sits nearby and sighs if I dont play with him or give him treats...
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- Cornwall , UK
@MellowYellow , lovely words , Karen . It is four weeks today that I held our little one in my arms and said goodbye and to be honest , it is still as painful now . I think my pain is adding to the grief , I had an MRI ten days ago as I am struggling to walk with such awful back pain . My consultant is ringing me on Tuesday to discuss the results , there is talk of steroid injections in the spine , I will try anything as the pain of walking is just shocking and poor Reuben is getting short changed, bless his heart . He still looks for Nelly every morning and I sometimes think I am losing my mind as I talk to her most days . We will , I know , just have to accept our loss and try to cope with it and you are so right, it cannot be rushed , we need to grieve for our little darling girl . I am glad that Merlin is a little better now , helping in the garden is priceless, bless him xxxx
Atemas
UK Tour Guide
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- North Cambridgeshire
No I don’t think so Kate. He goes to his doggie playgroup so he gets lots of exercise and socialising
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- Malvern Worcestershire
My heart aches for you Kate and to have a painful back on top of your grief is awful.
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- Cornwall , UK
What has made it all worse to cope with is that poor little love was in the hospital which she hated so much . When I went to cuddle her , she was in a little room with the Vet and nurse , she saw me and scooted on her bottom to the door I had come through , such was her distress of being there . I think I would have been able to cope far better had she been at our Vets where she knew everyone rather than this place where she cried so much and everyone was strange to her . I guess we just have to accept that we cant always have the ending we wish for, for our beloved pets xxx
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It does make it seem worse sadly. But we don't know how she was when you were not there. I would feel exactly the same, but maybe we suffer as we torture ourselves. Having been a veterinary nurse dogs are more philosophical than we imagine.
Emily_Babbelhund
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Just keep talking to her, Kate. I still talk to Brogan and he’s been gone 10 years. It’s a comfort and has helped me NOT lose my mind.
I am so sorry about your back, Kate. I'm sure stress and grief bring on physical pain.