Getting desperate!
- Thread starter Georgesmum
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- Ontario, Canada
No judging here either. I’m sorry you’re in such a difficult place, but take heart that you’re making the best decision for yourself and George. Give yourself a hug and here’s one from us. 
Beanwood
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No one here is going to judge you, we are just not those sort of people. We all appreciate how tough it is rearing a young puppy, and it sounds like you are spending a fair amount of time on your own with him. Can you reach out to someone to give you a bit of break and change of scenery? Whilst it is very brave to admit defeat and consider taking him back to the breeder, just make sure that you are the right place mentally and physically to make that sort of decision.
Boogie
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- Manchester UK
Thank goodness for MumsIm waiting till my mum gets here before I send it, moral support and tissue giver
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No one is going to judge you, like others have said. At the end of the day you have to do what is right for you mentally.
Is there someone who could take him for one night to allow you to take a break, even maybe the local Vet or breader even?
I know it is hard, and each pup is different. This makes it very hard when you see others or hear how well it is going for them. You look at your situation and think 'what is wrong'.
Without turning this into me, this is what is happening here. When we got Vanilla she was calm, quiet (OK a little cry in the beginning) but settles quickly. Biting yes, jumping yes, but only lasted a short while.
Now with Honey she crys and howls the place down, jumps and bites like a nut job, licks plates clean, nicks things left right and center and basically is just an annoying little s$£t.
We managed to get her quiet a few weeks back but last few days she has started again. Yes I have an OH, but I am still on my own as such. Especially as it comes to the dogs I pretty much do everything (when it comes to the house work etc. same again but for other reason). Regarding Dogs OH has started to get the attitude 'she is your dog (for Vanilla)' and for Honey it 'she is becoming your dog' attitude.
We have wondered did we do the right thing in getting a second pup and it disrupting our lives, more by OH but still it does cross your mind. Especially when you are tired and you have to take a little one to toilet throughout the night until little one is trained and then the older one just as you are getting half an hour sleep before it is time to get up for the day.
Currently I am also thinking how can I get her to be quiet again for next week when everybody is out in the morning? Cant have her screaming and howling the neighborhood down...
So I get where you are coming from, but just maybe take a day and night out away from the pup? Especially if you are not 100% sure and there is just a little niggle of doubt.
Hopefully this does not sound harsh to you (or anyone else) and I have not just taken over your thread.
At the end of the day it will be OK no matter what, just remember that
Is there someone who could take him for one night to allow you to take a break, even maybe the local Vet or breader even?
I know it is hard, and each pup is different. This makes it very hard when you see others or hear how well it is going for them. You look at your situation and think 'what is wrong'.
Without turning this into me, this is what is happening here. When we got Vanilla she was calm, quiet (OK a little cry in the beginning) but settles quickly. Biting yes, jumping yes, but only lasted a short while.
Now with Honey she crys and howls the place down, jumps and bites like a nut job, licks plates clean, nicks things left right and center and basically is just an annoying little s$£t.
We managed to get her quiet a few weeks back but last few days she has started again. Yes I have an OH, but I am still on my own as such. Especially as it comes to the dogs I pretty much do everything (when it comes to the house work etc. same again but for other reason). Regarding Dogs OH has started to get the attitude 'she is your dog (for Vanilla)' and for Honey it 'she is becoming your dog' attitude.
We have wondered did we do the right thing in getting a second pup and it disrupting our lives, more by OH but still it does cross your mind. Especially when you are tired and you have to take a little one to toilet throughout the night until little one is trained and then the older one just as you are getting half an hour sleep before it is time to get up for the day.
Currently I am also thinking how can I get her to be quiet again for next week when everybody is out in the morning? Cant have her screaming and howling the neighborhood down...
So I get where you are coming from, but just maybe take a day and night out away from the pup? Especially if you are not 100% sure and there is just a little niggle of doubt.
Hopefully this does not sound harsh to you (or anyone else) and I have not just taken over your thread.
At the end of the day it will be OK no matter what, just remember that
Hi there Anna, I'd normally send this sort of message privatealy, but your account doesn't allow me to start a conversation with you.
I've read your post today and I do feel for you, there's nothing more I can add that the others haven't.
If you do decide to keep George and want a bit of respite, I'm really not that far away from you in North Warks. I'd be happy to have him overnight for you this weekend, or I'm off work from next Friday through to the following Wednesday so could give you a few days break.
I know this might seem weird as we haven't met, and you might be thinking 'who is this person', but it's a genuine offer. Some people on the forum have met me and can vouch I am real with my own dog. Some of them even know where I live
If you don't want to respond to this as you've made your mind up I completely understand.
I've read your post today and I do feel for you, there's nothing more I can add that the others haven't.
If you do decide to keep George and want a bit of respite, I'm really not that far away from you in North Warks. I'd be happy to have him overnight for you this weekend, or I'm off work from next Friday through to the following Wednesday so could give you a few days break.
I know this might seem weird as we haven't met, and you might be thinking 'who is this person', but it's a genuine offer. Some people on the forum have met me and can vouch I am real with my own dog. Some of them even know where I live
If you don't want to respond to this as you've made your mind up I completely understand.
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- Argyll & Bute, Scotland
I'm so sorry you are feeling so down, I remember those feelings well. I agree with having a break to gather your thoughts and not make any decisions you may regret. If I were you I would be taking @Natalie up on her extremely kind offer to help you. If you still feel the same after some time out than returning George to the breeder is your choice. We really don't judge, just help if we can. There are a lot of shoulders to cry on here xxx
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- Cornwall , UK
@Natalie what a lovely kind offer for you to make xx I can also understand the feelings of " what have we done " . Sam was a calm puppy , Reuben definitely isn't but he is getting much better now and I wouldn't be without him for the world . The first few months are damned hard work , I`m retired and so time isn't as issue but tiredness sometimes is ! I hope you find the solution , the right one for you and of course for little George and if you do decide to part , then better now than further down the line when he is more settled , good luck x
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- Alfreton, Derbyshire
Firstly @Natalie thankyou so much for your incredibly kind offer, it’s unreal that someone I don’t even know cares enough to be willing to do that for me and George.
I’ve text the breeder and she’s willing to take him back and she’ll find a new owner for him. It’s not a spur of the moment decision, I’ve strained my already frazzled brain dwelling on it and in the long run it will be better for both of us, Sunday will be a really tough day, but I’ve got to do it for my own sanity and George’s well being, and I hate myself for it. But I can say I tried really really hard and it just didn’t work for me
I’ve text the breeder and she’s willing to take him back and she’ll find a new owner for him. It’s not a spur of the moment decision, I’ve strained my already frazzled brain dwelling on it and in the long run it will be better for both of us, Sunday will be a really tough day, but I’ve got to do it for my own sanity and George’s well being, and I hate myself for it. But I can say I tried really really hard and it just didn’t work for me
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- Alfreton, Derbyshire
And Thankyou also to everyone else that has messaged with support and understanding, it means more to me than you can imagine xxFirstly @Natalie thankyou so much for your incredibly kind offer, it’s unreal that someone I don’t even know cares enough to be willing to do that for me and George.
I’ve text the breeder and she’s willing to take him back and she’ll find a new owner for him. It’s not a spur of the moment decision, I’ve strained my already frazzled brain dwelling on it and in the long run it will be better for both of us, Sunday will be a really tough day, but I’ve got to do it for my own sanity and George’s well being, and I hate myself for it. But I can say I tried really really hard and it just didn’t work for me
- Location
- Cornwall , UK
Please don't hate yourself for this decision , its the right one for you and George . So pleased that the breeder is being so responsible too x
- Location
- Canberra, Australia
Great to hear that George can go back to the breeder who will find him a home that he fits into. Everything is going to be fine for George.
Sunday will be a challenge, but go easy on yourself. Will your Mum be around on Sunday?
Sunday will be a challenge, but go easy on yourself. Will your Mum be around on Sunday?
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- Alfreton, Derbyshire
I’m so glad she’s been really good about it, mum is coming to stay with me Sunday night because I’ll be a wreck, and she’ll be here when I get home from work on Monday afternoon
Just go easy on yourself, it's a brave thing to do if it's just not working with you and George. He'll be fine. Hugs XXX
Boogie
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- Location
- Manchester UK
I’ll be thinking of you on Sunday
- Location
- Andorra and Spain
Big hugs. If you need to talk afterwards, we're here for you. Honestly, you won't find a more supportive group of people. George will be fine. It will definitely be harder on you; he knows his breeder and will be happy there until he finds his forever home. And that home will thank you for looking after him, for toilet training him, and for doing what was best for him so that he could go on to be loved by them.
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- East Sussex
So sorry for you @Georgesmum, you’re making a very tough and brave decision.
Bless your heart.
I hope you do ok on Sunday.
Lots of love to you
Bless your heart.
I hope you do ok on Sunday.
Lots of love to you
- Location
- Ontario, Canada
Will be thinking of you on Sunday. I’m pleased to hear the breeder is willing to take him back and find him a new forever home which he will fit into. Pups are very resilient, probably much more so than adult humans. Be kind to yourself and try to enjoy your time with George as much as you can over the next few days.
I apologize if I was looking for you at this difficult time. I knew you were struggling and didn’t want to feel you were alone if there was something any/all of us could do to help out.
Big hugs and take care of yourself....
I apologize if I was looking for you at this difficult time. I knew you were struggling and didn’t want to feel you were alone if there was something any/all of us could do to help out.
Big hugs and take care of yourself....