Sky ❤️

[Atemas]

Well of course she had her foibles. When we got her, she used to chase the house martins that swooped up and down the pathways in the woods and fields. It was if a red mist had descended on her and she‘d run herself into exhaustion. Her recall was rubbish the first few years (our fault not hers for not training more robustly). She had a habit of running off and being bought home - strangely always in BMW’s. She always had that horrible Labrador habit of eating poo which on one occasion made her seriously ill and meant she wore a muzzle on her free walks for several years. She was my first dog and of course on getting Red, I realised those first few months when she belonged to someone else, she had had little training and I believe a window of opportunity was missed. I am not blaming others, I know we should have trained more. Having said all of that, she blossomed into the easiest dog ever. We never had to worry taking her anywhere. I am bowled over at the wonderful comments coming in from people who knew her

 

[Selina27]

I am bowled over at the wonderful comments coming in from people who knew her

Ah but we feel that we did
You write so eloquently about her xx

 

[Stacia]

@Atemas it is the dogs that have the foibles are the ones that are special, my favourite dog was a right B, but oh the character he had. I love that Sky usually came home in a BMW, a dog with taste xx

 

[Selina27]

it is the dogs that have the foibles are the ones that are special,

 

[Atemas]

Another day starts without Sky (don’t worry this will be the last in this thread). We think we have got the news out there now that Sky has gone. Stupid things are setting me off - e.g. I always ‘sign’ the dog’s names in birthday/other cards to people - I have had 2 to write already without her name. We were 3 before we got Red - now we are 3 again - we loved being a little’ family’ of 4. Stupidly, a few people have reacted to our news she has gone with ‘are you getting another?’ Firstly, I think this is so insensitive - as if you can just replace one dog with another straight away! Secondly, the answer is no. I am older than F and he said himself that I may be in my eighties when Red is an old dog. Gosh, this is a sobering thought and makes you reflect on the shortness of life - be happy everyone and get out there and do what your heart desires.

Sky is dominating my thoughts and we are both totally bereft but I can ‘see’ her running free and already she is my ‘ghost’ dog - forever by my side

 

[snowbunny]

Don’t feel this has to be your last post. We don’t mind one bit, and we will never get bored of stories or pictures of your lovely Sky.

You are fit and strong, Alison. We had a ski instructor who was still teaching in his nineties. Getting out in nature keeps you strong and young, both mentally and physically. Don’t let your life be dictated by a meaningless number x

 

[Anne123]

Don‘t let this be your last post about sky! It helps to talk about her!

I know that eventually the hurt subsides and that you will be able to speak of her without crying. Lovely memo of a beautiful dog will stay forever with you.

 

[HAH]

Keep writing Alison, if you’d like to. It’s only natural to think in absolutes at the moment but try to hold some space for who knows what down the line. Seismic shifts knock us for six and you don’t know how you’ll feel in a week, a month, a year - everything you’re feeling now is part of the processing, so try to go with the current for a bit. And do keep writing, I love hearing about Sky xxx

 

[Granca]

Keep the memories coming, Alison. It’s lovely to hear about all the good times you had with Sky. x

 

[kateincornwall]

Please dont stop writing about Sky , unless you really dont want to . It is so hard when you meet people and they ask that question , and even harder when they ask if you will have another dog because right now, this is the very last thing on your mind , you need time to grieve for your darling girl . My thoughts are with you and yours xxxx

 

[Cath]

We all loved Sky

 

[Loraseal]

That is a beautiful photo of Sky on the beach. Please don't feel that you have to make this your last post.
x

 

[snowbunny]

 

[Cupcase]

I haven't written anything as the only words I have, are, I am so very sorry. However I have read what you have written. People who don't have dogs may not understand the grief that is felt when one of our dogs die. This group of people here do. Please keep writing about her if you want to. It's up to each individual within this group whether they read it or not, but writing down and giving life to Sky through your words may help you cope with your grief I'm sure everyone here will understand.

 

[edzbird]

As long as it helps, please keep writing beautiful words about Sky. Our beloved dogs live on in our memories xx

 

[SwampDonkey]

We like listening if it helps you keep writing. If you do want another dog eventually have one, be happy.

 

[jazzmynn]

We all understand. Others may not, but we do. Continue to write about Sky, especially if it helps you through the process. And it is a process. A very difficult, personal process, but you’ll get there.

 

[Boogie]

Another day starts without Sky (don’t worry this will be the last in this thread). We think we have got the news out there now that Sky has gone. Stupid things are setting me off - e.g. I always ‘sign’ the dog’s names in birthday/other cards to people - I have had 2 to write already without her name. We were 3 before we got Red - now we are 3 again - we loved being a little’ family’ of 4. Stupidly, a few people have reacted to our news she has gone with ‘are you getting another?’ Firstly, I think this is so insensitive - as if you can just replace one dog with another straight away! Secondly, the answer is no. I am older than F and he said himself that I may be in my eighties when Red is an old dog. Gosh, this is a sobering thought and makes you reflect on the shortness of life - be happy everyone and get out there and do what your heart desires.

Sky is dominating my thoughts and we are both totally bereft but I can ‘see’ her running free and already she is my ‘ghost’ dog - forever by my side

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Beautiful

And you are right about them being insensitive. If someone loses a husband we don’t ask ‘are you getting another?’

 

[Beanwood]

Beautiful photo of stories about good times together. Non-dog people just don't understand, well never mind! We do, and will never tire of reading your lovely posts.

 

[Emily_Babbelhund]

As soon as I read your post, I thought, "Oh no, this shouldn't be her last post about Sky!". So I was happy read down and see everyone has already told you about that. I'll add my voice to the crowd: please keep talking about her here.

I also agree with all the others who have said our dogs no longer with us in body become part of our pup pack with us in spirit. I still talk to Duncan, Brogan and Mama Jodhi. My belief is that they stay around us pretty much constantly in the beginning when we need them most, then pop in and out as they like as we get stronger. I can most feel my three these days when Carbon does his zoomies on the beach as all three were die-hard beach-goers. And when I mess up with Carbon, it is very easy to see Brogan sitting there rolling his eyes at me as if to say, "I trained you better than that, didn't I?"

The dumb comment...well, I don't think people mean to be insensitive, more that they don't know what to say. And they're not dog people which means they don't understand the grief at all.

If someone loses a husband we don’t ask ‘are you getting another?’

Yeah, actually people do this, too, just in different words: "When are you getting out there again?" or "My cousin has a really nice friend your age you should meet."