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Candy

Candy

Biscuit Tin Guardian
Location
West Yorkshire, UK
My heart goes out to you, such a sad and difficult time and such a moving tribute to your dear girl. Joy and I are staying with my friend Liz at present. We drove through Sunny Hunny yesterday and I thought of you, Sky and Red. We spent the night in Thornham to break the journey and spent most of this morning on the glorious beach at Holkham, where I thought of you again, as I was sure you must have been there with Sky and Red too and GGJ loved it so much.
Continuing to think of you and hoping that you can take comfort in the thought that no- one could possibly given Sky a better life than you did.:hug:
 
Atemas

Atemas

UK Tour Guide
Location
North Cambridgeshire
Thank you so much everyone - I appreciate you all reading about Sky and writing such lovely supportive comments. Day 2 without her and I am sitting here in tears - again! @snowbunny - you are right about the waves of sadness - they just come. I did my very elderly mum’s shopping yesterday and I nearly had a panic attack when I couldn’t find a box of assorted biscuits she wanted. It was the most terrible feeling which I hadn’t bargained for. F is totally bereft. The house is so quiet despite the fact she was always a quiet dog - she never barked - although she could. Just her presence was so powerful and always always so loving. Lost without her.

Thank you @Candy for thinking of us at Hunstanton and Holkham. Every bit of that north Norfolk coast has been travelled by her and us. I remember a panic at Brancaster when F walked her and she went out into the marshes and got into difficulties. It scared F so much (and me when he returned to the hotel and told me). We bought one of those horrible retractable leads that day in the Pet shop in Sheringham for the rest of that holiday.
 
MellowYellow

MellowYellow

One other thing I have found to be helpful was to plant a small part of the garden with spring bulbs for each of my dogs who have gone. I had them both cremated and put their ashes in the garden, so now in spring I am always happy to see Billy's bluebells and Bones' daffodils coming up.
 
kateincornwall

kateincornwall

Location
Cornwall , UK
In my Blue Cross Pet Bereavement days , we used to suggest a plant in the garden . We also found that many bereaved owners liked to make a memory box , maybe a little painful in the very early days but it will become a treasure trove for special photos and memorabilia . Paul has made wooden plaques , engraved with our loved ones names , they are dotted around our garden .
Please come here and talk about Sky whenever you want to Alison , it really can help xxxxx
 
Atemas

Atemas

UK Tour Guide
Location
North Cambridgeshire
It has helped already @kateincornwall to talk about Sky. We have just done a simple Facebook post about Sky and F is a blubbering mess. Interestingly though, going through the many many stored photos of her, you can see the huge decline of her this year which all fits with the documentation I have done of her on this forum. It doesn’t make the absence of her any easier but it does reinforce our decision to let her go. I honestly believe she was ready to go. I think this forum is wonderful ❤
 
kateincornwall

kateincornwall

Location
Cornwall , UK
I hope you dont mind my sharing this, Alison but many have found it helps . I used to use an analogy when people invariably asked when the pain would stop .
Grief is like a wound , a gaping wound which hurts so much that nothing will help to ease it . Slowly , the wound begins to knit together , the pain is now more bearable and not so all consuming as before . Then, with no warning ,we catch the wound which opens again, just a little and the pain returns with clarity and takes us unawares .
Once more, the wound closes , this time it closes fully but it leaves a scar . This scar is a lasting memory of the wound , but over time, the scar fades until it is almost invisible but if we look closely we can still see it . However, it no longer hurts , just stays as a reminder and we reach acceptance xxxxx
 
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Stacia

Stacia

Location
Malvern Worcestershire
MellowYellow said:
One other thing I have found to be helpful was to plant a small part of the garden with spring bulbs for each of my dogs who have gone. I had them both cremated and put their ashes in the garden, so now in spring I am always happy to see Billy's bluebells and Bones' daffodils coming up.
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I still have Drift's ashes in a cardboard box (decent box inside) on my desk and cannot bring myself to open or move them. My other dogs are in the garden with spring daffodils planted over them.

@Atemas, I had that dreadful panicky feeling with Drift, suddenly desperately wanted him. But as Kate so wisely says, the wound does eventually heal x
 
Atemas

Atemas

UK Tour Guide
Location
North Cambridgeshire
The analogy will help @kateincornwall as I expect there will be challenging days and nights ahead. Today has been harder than yesterday - we miss her so much. I have hugged Red such a lot @MellowYellow - she looks so lost and she knows we are upset and I feel bad about that. We are keeping her routines as normal as possible.

i know we are all different but we didn’t want her cremated so there will be no ashes and no planting or plaques - just millions of memories. I can still ‘see’ in my head all our ‘lasts’ on Tuesday morning and everything that happened in the vets room - I don’t ever want to forget her in any sense. This is so hard
 
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